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Issue 17 Out Now

How to be more Supportive

Healthy relationships thrive on emotional support and understanding. Being committed to your partner means you listen, care for, and stand by them through their highs and lows. Prioritizing each other’s needs while still caring for your own is crucial to a successful relationship. Having a supportive partner can make dating more enjoyable, giving both partners a support system.

Support in a relationship can be simply listening to their day, allowing them to cry, expressing empathy, and accepting them for who they are. You can also show support by doing household chores or errands. A supportive relationship gives reassurance that your partner will be there for you. This reassurance boosts self-esteem and leads to long-lasting relationships.

To be supportive, practice active listening by giving your partner your full attention when they’re speaking. Eliminate distractions, maintain eye contact, and show interest in what they’re saying. Small cues that you’re listening to your partner can be nodding, verbal cues, and physical gestures. These gestures can seem small, but your partner will feel respected and validated. While it’s difficult to give your undivided attention, continue practicing to show your partner that you care and want to support them.

Time apart can strengthen any relationship. Giving your partner time for themselves shows you acknowledge their personal needs and well-being. Co-dependent Couples neglect themselves and their previous relationships. Taking the time to see friends, exercise, journal, or spend time alone can help you reflect on your relationship and how it makes you feel. To stay on the same page, communicate with your partner on the boundaries of the space you give each other. Talk to your partner and understand how much space they need. Couples may prefer consistent alone time or may want company.

Love your partner for who they are. Tell your partner that you love their personality, what you appreciate, and list reasons you care about them. Showing unconditional love is loving all of their best and worst moments. Taking away that love when they upset you damage the relationship. When love is conditional, it becomes toxic. Putting your partner down, trying to change them, or punishing them is a toxic relationship. Unconditional love does not mean disrespecting or letting your partner disrespect you.

Reflect on yourself and your actions. A huge part of healthy relationships is reflecting on how you support your partner. When you step back and look at how the things you do and say make them feel, you can identify problems making it easier to have conversations that help you work towards being a more supportive partner.

Many people hate admitting when they’re wrong, but in a relationship, it’s crucial if you don’t want it to end. Owning your mistakes shows your partner that you can be mature and don’t find an issue with taking accountability. You could be apologizing for something you said, not doing a task, breaking a promise, or not listening. Apologizing shows your partner you respect and care for them.


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