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Issue 17 Out Now

Healing From Mistrust

Andrew Neel (@andrewtneel)

Healing can be a long and tumultuous journey. Our life experiences can have an impact on how we navigate life. Feelings of mistrust can start in early childhood when their life is void of care, acceptance, and autonomy. Emotional wounds can also be inflicted later in life from abuse or mistreatment. These situations will leave a person anxious around the people in their life, and they will also have difficulty forming healthy relationships.

To form new bonds and build long-lasting relationships. You have to be willing to trust. Know that healing is not linear. You will have put faith in the journey.

To build a foundation of trust, open and effective communication is vital. An open dialogue with the people in your life allows you to express your feelings. Conveying your emotions through I feel statements allows both parties to explain themselves without placing blame on each other. When you fully engage, trust can be built and restored.

Continue using “I feel” statements to set boundaries and expectations. When you communicate about the issues or areas of mistrust, you can address and set the tone for the relationship. When someone constantly crosses boundaries, you may have to reassess and decide to alter or end that relationship.

Identifying areas of mistrust can help to clear your mind. When you pinpoint specific moments, you can think about what’s causing you to feel this way. When feeling mistrustful, it’s easy for the mind to spiral, often leading us to jump to conclusions. Combat this by investing in a journal. When you write out these moments or feelings of mistrust, you’ll gain clarity and will be able to identify patterns of people being untrustworthy.

Letting people into your life can be a nerve-racking experience. When you face emotional wounds, it’s easy to become anxious and overwhelmed by past experiences. Take small steps to ease yourself into the process by finding small things you’re comfortable sharing. Sharing your hobbies, goals, or life stories can help build trust slowly.

Wounds from abuse need extra care to heal. Try seeking out a therapist that helps you work through any emotions and memories. Taking the first step to reach out and explain your situation is an enormous step in trust, but doing so will free you from the anxiety and paranoia of mistrust. Identify your emotional wounds and focus on healing them so that you can open your heart again.

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